I want to get to know and understand the boy before trying to raise the man.

My son Luke is eight years old.

He is at an age where the world is still full of extraordinary possibilities, very complicated questions, imaginary adventures in our back yard, and things that absolutely MUST be shown to Dad IMMEDIATELY.

And, of course, monsters, dragons, zombies and also some very real fears that I do...

Muscle, metabolism, physical confidence and the lifelong pleasure of being a strong, capable man.

The Promise I Made to Myself

I was in my early twenties, stood 1.85 metres tall and weighed just 62 kilograms when a very simple moment changed the direction of my entire life.

I completed my honours degree at 24 years old and decided to take a year off after studies and work for Hannes Dreyer, the...

What's Really Happening to Men After 40?

Testosterone, sex, strength, stress and the health conversations we need to have.

Men have a remarkable ability to adapt to almost anything.

We work through difficult seasons, take on massive responsibilities, build careers, provide for our families and find ways to keep moving forward in incredible uncertainty.

And sometimes, without really noticing, w...

Wat drie ander twaalfjarige koshuislaaities my geleer het oor vrees, moed, trots en broederskap en hoe wen nie wen is as jy wie jy is verloor nie.

Ek was twaalf toe ek by Morgenzon se plaasskool en seunskoshuis aangekom het.

Ek was eers bang, maar baie gou in my element. Die deel van my kinderlewe was ongelooflik.

Ek het daar geleer ek was mal oor seunsgoed. Rugby. Kompetisie. Stoei. Avontuur. ...

 Alcohol. Gambling. Porn. Smoking/Vaping, Endless scrolling. Get ready for an honest adult conversation about some of the habits we turn to for relief that can ruin a man's life.

Fair warning, gentlemen. We're going there. Yikes!

I want to talk about alcohol, porn, drugs, gambling, smoking, vaping, endless scrolling, and some of the habits men develop while trying to cope with life's demands and...

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I ran into an old acquaintance recently, and the fact that I'd come out came up almost immediately.

"I don't care if you're gay. Just don't be gay gay, you know what I mean?"

Well... no... I actually don't really know what you mean. 🤔

Mmmm...

But I suspect he didn't really know either.

I think the words just came out. Something he'd heard before. Someth...

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On the better side of 40, I'm more excited about my future than I was at 21.

Which is quite something, considering that at 21 I thought I knew just about EVERYTHING there was to know. 🤣

Back then, I had big dreams. I wanted to build a successful life. Work hard. Be someone people could depend on. Make something of myself.

Twenty years ...

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Shit had to break. And I thank God it did.

If things had kept going “well”, I would probably still be doing exactly what I knew how to do. Building the business. Training. Providing. Chasing the next goal. Keeping everything moving.

I was good at that stuff. I loved a lot of it, too. And the daily grind gave me a very convenient reason to keep my eye...

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On a recent cycle, I found myself thinking about how hard it can be to get back up after life kicks you in the nuts on a random Sunday evening while you’re minding your own business. And it’s never the things you see coming. It’s the thing you never imagined could happen.

After my separation and coming out, I went through a very humbling...

Luke is now eight.

When I think about the man I hope he will grow into, I think about his heart. His relationship with God. The way he will treat people. The promises he will keep. The courage he will need.

I want him to feel proud of being a boy and, eventually, a man. I want him to enjoy his strength, develop his abilities and take responsibility for the way he uses them.

I want him to be kin...