On integrity, disappointment, ambition and the man you become when life doesn't go your way.

I've met some extraordinary men in my life.

Ambitious men. Generous men. Men of faith. Men who love their familie wholeheartedly, work hard, build businesses, create opportunities and genuinely want to make a difference.

The truth is it's relatively easy to be the man you want to be when life is giving ...

Wat drie ander twaalfjarige koshuislaaities my geleer het oor vrees, moed, trots en broederskap en hoe wen nie wen is as jy wie jy is verloor nie.

Ek was twaalf toe ek by Morgenzon se plaasskool en seunskoshuis aangekom het.

Ek was eers bang, maar baie gou in my element. Die deel van my kinderlewe was ongelooflik.

Ek het daar geleer ek was mal oor seunsgoed. Rugby. Kompetisie. Stoei. Avontuur. ...

 Alcohol. Gambling. Porn. Smoking/Vaping, Endless scrolling. Get ready for an honest adult conversation about some of the habits we turn to for relief that can ruin a man's life.

Fair warning, gentlemen. We're going there. Yikes!

I want to talk about alcohol, porn, drugs, gambling, smoking, vaping, endless scrolling, and some of the habits men develop while trying to cope with life's demands and...

By Jacque Visagie · Personal Leadership & High Performance

On the better side of 40, I'm more excited about my future than I was at 21.

Which is quite something, considering that at 21 I thought I knew just about EVERYTHING there was to know. 🤣

Back then, I had big dreams. I wanted to build a successful life. Work hard. Be someone people could depend on. Make something of myself.

Twenty years ...

By Jacque Visagie · Personal Leadership & High Performance

On a recent cycle, I found myself thinking about how hard it can be to get back up after life kicks you in the nuts on a random Sunday evening while you’re minding your own business. And it’s never the things you see coming. It’s the thing you never imagined could happen.

After my separation and coming out, I went through a very humbling...

You’re about to make a decision, and before you’ve worked out what you want, you’re already imagining everyone else’s response.

What will your partner think? Will your parents understand? Will your friends question it? Will someone decide you’ve become selfish, difficult or less ambitious?

You might recognise this around a career change, a relationship, how you spend your time or something perso...

You know the promise you made to yourself.

You were going to have the conversation, finish the project, make time for your health or finally act on something that mattered.

Then another week passed.

Now, when you think about trying again, you can hear your own doubt: Will I actually follow through this time?

If that feels familiar, I’d begin with the relationship you have with your own word. W...

You’ve worked hard to get here. You’ve built a career, taken responsibility and achieved things that once felt a long way off.

You can see the progress. Other people can see it too.

Yet when things go quiet, a question keeps returning: Why doesn’t this feel the way I thought it would?

Perhaps you enjoy your work, but the rest of your life has become something you fit around it. Perhaps you’re p...

By Jacque Visagie · Personal Leadership & High Performance

You tell someone you can't do it.

Then you look at the message again. You add an apology. A longer explanation. An offer to make another plan.

A few minutes later, you've agreed to the very thing you were trying to say no to.

If that feels familiar, you may be wondering how to set boundaries without feeling guilty. Here is where I woul...

By Jacque Visagie · Personal Leadership & High Performance

You can meet a deadline. You can be there when someone needs you. You can carry a surprising amount of responsibility. Yet the thing you said you would do for yourself keeps getting pushed to tomorrow.

Eventually, you start asking: “Why can't I stay consistent?”

If that sounds familiar, I want you to look closely at the commitment you're t...