I want to get to know and understand the boy before trying to raise the man.

My son Luke is eight years old.

He is at an age where the world is still full of extraordinary possibilities, very complicated questions, imaginary adventures in our back yard, and things that absolutely MUST be shown to Dad IMMEDIATELY.

And, of course, monsters, dragons, zombies and also some very real fears that I do...

By Jacque Visagie · Midlife & Life Direction

Shit had to break. And I thank God it did.

If things had kept going “well”, I would probably still be doing exactly what I knew how to do. Building the business. Training. Providing. Chasing the next goal. Keeping everything moving.

I was good at that stuff. I loved a lot of it, too. And the daily grind gave me a very convenient reason to keep my eye...

Luke is now eight.

When I think about the man I hope he will grow into, I think about his heart. His relationship with God. The way he will treat people. The promises he will keep. The courage he will need.

I want him to feel proud of being a boy and, eventually, a man. I want him to enjoy his strength, develop his abilities and take responsibility for the way he uses them.

I want him to be kin...

“Find your people.”

I wrote those words in Being Gay and Living by Your Values. I want to spend more time with them, because there is a practical question inside that advice.

How do you make friends in your 40s, especially when your life has changed and your weeks are already full?

For me, some of the voices that have encouraged me have come through books and audiobooks. I have found mentors th...

By Jacque Visagie · Midlife & Life Direction

You look at the week ahead and know exactly what everyone needs from you.

The work that needs finishing. The people you need to get back to. The responsibilities that will still be there on Monday morning.

But ask yourself what you want the next part of your life to look like, and the answer is less clear.

Perhaps something has changed: a relationsh...