On integrity, disappointment, ambition and the man you become when life doesn't go your way.

I've met some extraordinary men in my life.

Ambitious men. Generous men. Men of faith. Men who love their familie wholeheartedly, work hard, build businesses, create opportunities and genuinely want to make a difference.

The truth is it's relatively easy to be the man you want to be when life is giving ...

Wat drie ander twaalfjarige koshuislaaities my geleer het oor vrees, moed, trots en broederskap en hoe wen nie wen is as jy wie jy is verloor nie.

Ek was twaalf toe ek by Morgenzon se plaasskool en seunskoshuis aangekom het.

Ek was eers bang, maar baie gou in my element. Die deel van my kinderlewe was ongelooflik.

Ek het daar geleer ek was mal oor seunsgoed. Rugby. Kompetisie. Stoei. Avontuur. ...

 Alcohol. Gambling. Porn. Smoking/Vaping, Endless scrolling. Get ready for an honest adult conversation about some of the habits we turn to for relief that can ruin a man's life.

Fair warning, gentlemen. We're going there. Yikes!

I want to talk about alcohol, porn, drugs, gambling, smoking, vaping, endless scrolling, and some of the habits men develop while trying to cope with life's demands and...

By Jacque Visagie · Identity & Meaning

I ran into an old acquaintance recently, and the fact that I'd come out came up almost immediately.

"I don't care if you're gay. Just don't be gay gay, you know what I mean?"

Well... no... I actually don't really know what you mean. 🤔

Mmmm...

But I suspect he didn't really know either.

I think the words just came out. Something he'd heard before. Someth...

By Jacque Visagie · Midlife & Life Direction

Shit had to break. And I thank God it did.

If things had kept going “well”, I would probably still be doing exactly what I knew how to do. Building the business. Training. Providing. Chasing the next goal. Keeping everything moving.

I was good at that stuff. I loved a lot of it, too. And the daily grind gave me a very convenient reason to keep my eye...

“That’s gay.”

I hear it from men and women. Something is described as weak, inferior or less worthwhile, and “gay” becomes the word used to dismiss it.

Then they realise I’m standing next to them.

They start explaining. "I just meant... you know... " They try to clarify, hear themselves, and stumble over the next sentence.

I step in and save the day... “It’s okay. I get where you come from,” I...

The world will have no issue telling you who to be. It's important to figure out who you are before you go look for yourself. Your values should guide your every move going forward.

Some men I have worked with put enormous energy into preparing for a conversation that would change their lives. For one man, it was telling his partner he wanted to separate. For another, it was telling his family he...

If I asked you, “Who are you?”, what would you tell me?

“I’m a father.”

“I’m a lawyer.”

“I’m an entrepreneur.”

“I’m a husband.”

Each answer describes a relationship, a responsibility, a profession or something you have spent years building.

I’d also want to know about the man living those roles. What matters to you? What interests you? What do you enjoy? How do you make sense of your own lif...

I have spoken to men who appear incredibly successful from the outside and have told me:

“If I continue like this... honestly... I will break.”

Others have described feeling able to keep going for a few more years, while already fearing what will happen when they collapse.

These are conversations that stay with me. A man is looking ahead at his own life and wondering how long he can survive the...

There may be a part of your life you find difficult to talk about.

Perhaps it’s how you feel about your body. Perhaps your career looks nothing like you thought it would by now. You might be struggling with your sexuality, finding it difficult to show emotion, or wondering what the end of a relationship says about you.

You can be capable, caring and responsible and still find yourself thinking: ...